I am a very lucky mom to get to attempt to not screw up too badly the 4 sweet boogers God gave me.
I know that in their short lives so far, I have created many "couch worthy" moments. (My and Josh's term for events that will probably send them to therapy. Ha ha.) But last week a thought also occurred to me that freed me up just a little bit. And since I am nothing if not giving, I thought I would take a minute to share it with you.
They remember things differently than we do.
(And this is a very good thing most of the time.)
I had this little revelation when I went to Bo's kindergarten tea and read all about me according to Bo. Here are some highlights:
- I am 20 tall and 10 pounds. (Awesome. What does that even look like?)
- My favorite food is ham. (I actually am not a big fan of ham at all, but my family loves it, so I serve it.)
- He loves that I make cupcakes. (Hmmmm. Not sure when I last made cupcakes, but if he remembers me doing it, then score!)
- I read his Bible with him. (Do I ever? Yes. Would it have been something I guessed he remembered and recorded? No. Because I don't think I do it regularly enough.)
And therein lies my point. He's not measuring me against my standard for me. He's probably not measuring me against anything--he's remembering the times he felt happy or loved. He can't remember every detail of his day or week or month, etc. But he will probably catch the overarching themes.
Sigh of relief.
(Now, I do have one of my four who will be more likely to remember the times I missed it or the times he/she felt bad, but even he/she won't recall every mistake.)
So, maybe I can give myself a little grace and try to make a few outstanding memories that will stick with them and worry less about creating a therapy fund.
Happy Mother's Day.
3 days ago